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I’m Sorry

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I’m Sorry,

 

I’m Sorry I don’t live up to your standards,

But it’s not my fault that you can’t see,

That there is only one true version of me,

 

I’m Sorry is a word I used to say to you,

Before I had the chance to really think it through

 

So many days I used to agonise,

Why do I have this need to look perfect in your eyes?

Why did it take me so long to realise?

 

This shit ain’t worth it,

My life aint perfect,

But the way I feel today,

I know that I’m worth it,

 

I was once Sorry for me,

Now I’m Sorry for you,

I’m Sorry you cut us short and didn’t want to see this through,

 

I’m Sorry for all the moments that we will miss,

To Touch,

To Hold,

To share a Kiss,

 

I’m Sorry that you could not wait to see,

That there is so much more to me,

 

I used to say Sorry and thought that I meant it,

But not anymore….

 

I’m not Sorry for who I am,

 

Whether you’re in my life or not….

 

I’m Sorry

 

I’m Sorry

I’m Sorry if I don’t live up to your Standards,

But it’s not my fault you can’t See,

That there is only one true version of Me,

 

I’m Sorry is a word I used to say to you,

Before I’d had a chance to really think it throuhg,

 

So many days I used to agonize,

Why do I have this need to look Perfect in your eyes?

Why did it take me so long to realise? 

 

This Shit ain’t worth it,

My life ain’t Perfect,

But the way I feel today,

I know that I’m Worth It

 

I was once Sorry for Me,

Now I’m Sorry for You,

I’m Sorry you cut us short and didn’t want to see this through,

 

I’m Sorry for all the moments that we will miss,

To Touch, To Hold, To Share a Kiss,

 

I’m Sorry that you could not wait to See,

That there is so much more to Me,

 

I used to say Sorry and thought that I meant it

But not anymore…

 

I’m not Sorry for who I am,

Whether your in my life or not…

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Why does it always rain on me?

Is it because I lied when I was 17?…

That was 10 years ago now!!

I said I was Sorry!!

What more do you want from me??!!

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Rain, Rain, Go Away,
Come again another day…

Nope, tomorrow’s no good for me either!!

I can pencil you in for a week on Tuesday??

Amends

To Make Amends,

What does that really mean?

Isn’t sorry enough?

To make an amends is completely different from saying that you are sorry, for an amends is not so simple as to say a few sweet words of apology to make up for your misdeeds it goes further than that and shows true strength in you acknowledging the nature of the harm that you have caused.

Before you make an amends and approach the injured party, pause for a moment….

Look for the truth in the behaviour that you have just displayed, be it a lie that you told or some other action that caused harm to another

In looking at the truth in your behaviour, you can see what caused you to act in this way… Was it a fear of the unknown that caused you to lie? Is it that you did not realise that your behaviour was not the normal accepted response?

We are all creatures of habit and unless we see our behaviour as objectionable then we are unlikely to change and we will soon be back at this same point as we are most definitely due to repeat this same course of action.

Put yourself in the other persons shoes

How would I have felt if this had been done to me?

What areas of their life were affected by my actions?

Did me not turning up for work that day cost my employer money and a colleague their day off to cover for me?

Did my failure to pay my sister the money when I said I would leave her financially hard up and have to borrow money from a third party?

Putting yourself in the shoes of the person that you caused harm will enable you to acknowledge your behaviour honestly, not just in your mind but feel it in your heart.

You will know then why it is that you need to make the amends or repair that which has been broken, which in most cases is usually the trust of the other person.

Be honest about the harm you have caused, ALL OF IT, even that which the other person may not be aware of….

To be truly free and “walk in the sunlight of the spirit”, we have to shine a light on the darkness within each of us that would not would not wish others to see…

When you have have finished speaking with the other person ask them this question

Is there anything that I can do to make an amends to you?

It’s a hard thing to do, and you may not like what you are asked to do but show courage in your conviction and follow through on yours words with the necessary action.

Try it, before you begin to say sorry try putting yourself in the other persons shoes and fully acknowledging why it is that you are apologising…

Then ask them the question and follow through with the necessary action

Next you ‘may’ wish to make amends to those who you have caused harm to but perceive that they have wronged you in some way but that’s a though for another day

Good luck to you and I hope you find the freedom in the truth that you seek 🙂 x

I’m sorry

I’m sorry

Two simple words

I’m sorry

How often have we said these words?

I’m sorry I’m late… I’m sorry I didn’t mean to say that… I’m sorry I didn’t know you wanted that…

How often have we said these words and how often do we really stop and think about why it is that we are apologising.

Have these words become such that it’s more an instinctive reaction when we sense that we are in trouble, words that role so easily off the tongue that we find that we have said them even before we have considered why it is that we are a actually saying them.

To say sorry, to admit we were wrong, shows strength not weakness, but the strength lies in recognising the harm caused be it great or small and not repeating the same mistake in future situations.

If like me you got to a point in your life where you’ve said these simple words so many times, without the consideration of your miss deeds, then the power or depth and weight these words once held had long since dissipated.

If we apologies but fail to learn from our mistakes, then eventually these words will become meaningless in the hearts and minds of others, for what good it will do, you may as well scream them at the top of your voice, but however loud you shout all that will be heard is but silence or a whisper by the intended party.

“No sweeter a word said can touch the heart and mind of another and mend a broken soul, unless the heart and mind be open to hearing those words, they fall upon deaf ears”

So what do you say if you can’t say sorry…

Try saying

I Was Wrong!

You may be thinking to yourself what’s the difference, is it not the same as saying “I’m sorry”?

When we say “I was wrong” we are making a clear cut statement that we were wrong. Sorry tends to at time be followed by the words “but” or by some other justification

I’m sorry I’m late, but my bus was late

In the above statement we have offered an apology and began to own responsibility for our mistake; then immediately passed the blame onto somebody else.

It’s the bus drivers fault not mine, if only he’d turned up on time then I wouldn’t be late, but if we are honest did we really leave ourselves enough time to make the journey or are we blaming somebody else for our inability to plan ahead and leave at a reasonable time in the morning?

To say “I was wrong” leaves no wiggle room as I like to call it, it says to the other person that we know we are at fault

ONLY if followed by the reasons why we were wrong!!

Why not give it a try

Instead of saying sorry, take a moment and say “I was wrong” followed by you acknowledging to the other person why it is that you are indeed wrong.

This is not to say that everything is your fault, there may be occasions where the circumstances are beyond anything that you could have prevented. It’s about taking ownership for your own actions and looking at the part you played and disregarding all others involved, where were you wrong not him, or her or them but YOU!!

The next step would be to make an amends for your wrong, but that’s another thought for another day….

Good luck to you on your journey 🙂 x