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Past, Present, Future

Past – where I’ve been

Present – Where I am now

Future – Where I hope to be or where I see myself going

Where do you currently reside?

It’s a simple question, but take a second to think about it before you can answer honestly.

The “Past” is the places I’ve been, the people that came before me,

It can be said that the some total of your “experience” are building blocks of the man or woman that you are today. I would not be where I am at this very moment in time had i not experienced all the good and bad things that led me to this very point in time.

The Present is what is happening right now.

Right now this very second you are reading the words off of this page.

As I write them, so do you take them in and form your own opinion and understanding of what has been wrote.

But the present is not a lasting “thing” for lack of a better choice of words, as it is truly a state of being that you perceive in the essence of the “moment” before it becomes only but a memory and a part of your past.

The Future is forever changing and is that which is yet to come.

Everyday we make decisions or choices that will make an impact on the course that we take through life

“I won’t go to that party”

Had you had gone maybe you would have met the woman or man of your dreams, but this would be an outcome unlived

“I’ll take that job instead of this one”

 The people and experiences that you would have gained from taking either path would inevitably affect who you are to become and the wisdom and skill you would gain in your present life

But you can’t know what lies ahead with every outcome as you have to make a decision… “One or the other” and be able to live with what the future is to entail based on your current decision

When I asked above “which state are you currently living in” I asked you to pause for a reason.

Ideally we would strive to be living in a constant state of being i.e. the present, so that we are able to fully comprehend and take in all that is around us and truly experience life.

But such a state is hard to sustain fully and in my experience we often find ourselves slipping into the memories of the past or lost in the contemplation of what is yet to come.

The past is a great teacher but do not let yourself get trapped there.

We all experience both good and bad events as we grow into the people that we become, some of which leave scars and memories that we either strive to fight against and rebel or hope to live up to.

“I’m not going to end up like him or her”

May be a good motivation to give you the inner energy needed to succeed and achieve your goals,

But if you are running from the memory be careful that you don’t become what you have fought so hard to avoid in your quest to change your fate. To hold onto such hate will eventually consume you if you let it, rather than striving not to be him or her learn from his or her mistakes so that you can be the best version of you in the present.

You can say that similarly looking too far into the future can cause much harm if done in a way that makes you unable to see what is happening right in front of your eyes:

“I’m gonna be a millionaire”

“I’m gonna be a great dad and have a wonderful partner and kids”

Too few realise that although these may admirable goals to set oneself, there are a number of steps that we each have to walk until that “future goal becomes a present reality”

Be careful that you get so focused on the perfect ideal that the present joy and happiness will walk in and out of your life.

The real question you should be asking yourself after you have made your future aspirations is how am i going to achieve this thing?

Followed at once by taking “Action” in the “Present”

Learn from the Past, don’t look to deny or become trapped there

Learn to be Present, you only get one life and you will never again experience the events of today, make the most of it and be there in mind and body to experience it in all its beauty

Strive towards the future, don’t just live in the fantasy ask yourself honestly how you are to achieve such goals and take the necessary action to turn a dream into a reality

But the future is forever changing, no one’s fate is written in the stars

Have faith that you are where you are meant to be right now that’s all you need concern yourself with

 

I can’t change what’s already happened only learn from it and tomorrow hasn’t happened yet,

So why spend time worrying too much about it

Go out and Live and things will work out as there meant to. 🙂

Choices

 

Choices

Decisions

Everyday each of us has to make a choice or a decision.

Some of the choices we make bare little weight on the overall bearing on the course we travel through in our lives 

Have little impact on the outward ripple that carries on the wave that touches the lives of those we love and care about or even those we make “think” we hate or may not be aware;

For I could only tell you the way I see things from my perspective, I can see it’s effects in and around me some are tangible proof, others are only but a feeling,

I would not be so arrogant as to presume that though we may have lived through the same event, I could ever fully comprehend what it is that you felt and experienced at that very moment in time.

Decisions that are great in magnitude are sometimes made so lightly that we can only see the desired outcome of first few waves, not the upcoming storm on the horizon.

“But how then do we make a choice?”

“What is it that we should consider?”

I could spend a life time in deep contemplation, pondering all outcomes and trying to envision this “important decision” from all sides as so to limit the damage of my inevitable impact on those around me.

But to do so would mean my own defeat for I would have missed what it is to be alive

We can acquire all the knowledge in the world learned through books and our fellows as we grow….

But “Wisdom” comes through experience, taking what I’ve learned in a text book or class room and putting it into real life application

“Wisdom” not only come from making the “right” choices in life but also from the “mistakes” that we make, with the key being that we are “willing” and able to “Learn” from each and every experience.

In the end that final leap involves and element of “Luck” or what some might call “faith” it name is not important

As “no outcome is ever 100%” there is always the possibility that things may go the opposite way from which you expect, despite what all the evidence may be telling you.

Take time to really consider how your actions will impact others, if we all did this honestly the world would be a better place, but believe me saying it is much “easier” than putting its application into “practice” and I am by no means a saint.

My best advice is to be “true to who you are” whatever that may be in every decision you make, do not spend to long pondering for you will see your life slip pass you by…

And “Learn!!” Sometimes the greatest lessons that we learn through good or bad choices only come to us when we are “willing and open to see the truth”

All the best to you today 🙂

 

When I learn to feel, my heart will heal,
But how can I truly let go?..,.
and what is stopping me?

If my body be but a shell,
the physical manifestation of my true spirit within.
How then have I strayed so far,
From purity in the essence of my heart…

I’ve lived a lie and have worn a mask,
to protect me from the world,
A world i so desperately wanted to reach out and touch…

But to touch is to let you in…
But how would I start?
And where would I truly begin?

How do I let you see the side that I’ve so desperately fought to hide?
Can I truly pocket my Pride and become the man I’ve so long denied

Or will I forever live a lie?…

The darkness of my mind slowly creeps in,
It’s scares me now more than ever,
Reaching far deeper than I’ve ever been…

And then I see your face… Happiness fills me

But not for long…then comes Fear
Never ending Fear… But why?

I do not know but why…
I so desperately want to let you in…
But how would I start?
And where would I begin?…

Would I start with all thats good in me, my warmth and love and charity?

Yes this is it, this is what I want you to see,
This is the man I’ve so longed to be,

Feel the warmth of my spirit,
The violent yet gentle flame burning within,
Let me wrap my arms around you,
Warming you in my loving eternal embrace,

Reaching out to you and caressing your face

Let me call to you, call you by your Name

Speak words so Sweet, so Pure and Divine,

If all I have to offer you be but a few simple words,
Let the words I speak here today, take root in your Heart,
Let them be the seeds of Life to an everlasting tree of Devine Hope

These are the words I’ve never shared,
The words I’ve so long to but never dared…
To speak to you not with my mouth and lips,
But with my Heart and Eternal Soul

Let me call to you to hear my cry,
Hear the silenced voice of the little boy deep inside,
The man I’ve become bares the scars of false pride,
Standing before you this day is not a Man…But a Child

Clumsy and off balanced as I learn to stand and take that vital first step into the unknown

I feel as if I’m falling… But within you I feel the wings to Fly,
I won’t crash and burn, I’ll launch into flight, Soaring higher than I’ve ever been

Fear grips me by the throat strangling me from the inside,

But something’s different now…

“Take a breathe”…

“It’s ok”…

“Take a breath”

I hear a voice from within

“It’ll be ok, trust in me”

It’s no longer a battle, I no longer have to Win,
Let me head the echoing words of the True voice within

Today in You I see not the end,
I’ve feel the Essence of your Love in you my Friend

But to tell you half a tale would be still a Lie,
I’m still holding you at arms length away… And I don’t know why?..

How do I let you completely in?…
I’ve begun to let you in….
But now I’m scared to truly begin….

How do I take off the mask I’ve worn for so long?
Peel back the layers that I once thought kept me safe,

What will you think of me, when you get to truly see…
That I am not as Perfect as I make out to be…
There’s a whole other side to me…
And there is much of which I am ashamed…

I open my mouth…Nothing
I try again…. Nothing
I’m crippled with fear and I know not why

But then I feel your Touch… Oh how I want you so much

As I stand there looking into your eyes, I finally start to realise,
That you can already see,
Into the deepest depths of me,
To what the eye is blind to, but the Loving Heart can see

And your not Afraid.

You simply take my hand and Smile…

I pause for a while…

What is this I Feel inside? what used to be Fear has now begun to subside,

No longer am I deafened by fears crippling call, fueled by my arrogance and false pride

I no longer wish to Hide!!

I’m Finally ready, it feels natural with you to just be ME

All that I’ve ever wanted to Be

All I am I share with you Now,

Physically, Emotionally, Spiritually

I offer you my hand as we walk into the sun light of the Spirit
Bringing light to festered shadows of my mind
Let the boy within me hear the Beauty of your Lovers call..

At this perfect moment of internal bliss both He and I become One,

I, He, We and then just Me,

Now finally….You and Me

When I learned to Feel,
My wounds were Healed,

I am no longer afraid to let You In
I’ve finally let go and shared with you the essence of my True being,

My Soul within,

I was once Afraid and Blind to See, that the only thing that was stopping Me was….

ME

XxX

I’m sorry

I’m sorry

Two simple words

I’m sorry

How often have we said these words?

I’m sorry I’m late… I’m sorry I didn’t mean to say that… I’m sorry I didn’t know you wanted that…

How often have we said these words and how often do we really stop and think about why it is that we are apologising.

Have these words become such that it’s more an instinctive reaction when we sense that we are in trouble, words that role so easily off the tongue that we find that we have said them even before we have considered why it is that we are a actually saying them.

To say sorry, to admit we were wrong, shows strength not weakness, but the strength lies in recognising the harm caused be it great or small and not repeating the same mistake in future situations.

If like me you got to a point in your life where you’ve said these simple words so many times, without the consideration of your miss deeds, then the power or depth and weight these words once held had long since dissipated.

If we apologies but fail to learn from our mistakes, then eventually these words will become meaningless in the hearts and minds of others, for what good it will do, you may as well scream them at the top of your voice, but however loud you shout all that will be heard is but silence or a whisper by the intended party.

“No sweeter a word said can touch the heart and mind of another and mend a broken soul, unless the heart and mind be open to hearing those words, they fall upon deaf ears”

So what do you say if you can’t say sorry…

Try saying

I Was Wrong!

You may be thinking to yourself what’s the difference, is it not the same as saying “I’m sorry”?

When we say “I was wrong” we are making a clear cut statement that we were wrong. Sorry tends to at time be followed by the words “but” or by some other justification

I’m sorry I’m late, but my bus was late

In the above statement we have offered an apology and began to own responsibility for our mistake; then immediately passed the blame onto somebody else.

It’s the bus drivers fault not mine, if only he’d turned up on time then I wouldn’t be late, but if we are honest did we really leave ourselves enough time to make the journey or are we blaming somebody else for our inability to plan ahead and leave at a reasonable time in the morning?

To say “I was wrong” leaves no wiggle room as I like to call it, it says to the other person that we know we are at fault

ONLY if followed by the reasons why we were wrong!!

Why not give it a try

Instead of saying sorry, take a moment and say “I was wrong” followed by you acknowledging to the other person why it is that you are indeed wrong.

This is not to say that everything is your fault, there may be occasions where the circumstances are beyond anything that you could have prevented. It’s about taking ownership for your own actions and looking at the part you played and disregarding all others involved, where were you wrong not him, or her or them but YOU!!

The next step would be to make an amends for your wrong, but that’s another thought for another day….

Good luck to you on your journey 🙂 x

The first step is always the hardest or so the saying goes, but what’s stopping me from taking it?

Am I as fearless as I would lead you to believe or am I really still at heart that little boy or girl, stumbling around through life as I did all those years ago, when I took my first steps in this world and learned to find my balance and then to walk

I can quite easily give you a great list of all the things I don’t like about my life and may even take pleasure in the venting of my frustrations, but why can’t I seem to take the necessary action to change those things? What’s stopping me?

Fear of the unknown

“Better the devil you know, than the devil you don’t”

I may say to you that I hate my job, but the only thing keeping me there is ME!!

My fear of change and the unknown is all that may be stopping me from going for that all important promotion or making that change in career that would see me obtain the fulfilment and personal satisfaction through knowing I’m giving my all to a career that breeds passion in my heart and not just doing another ‘job’ to pay the bills.

We all experience fear in this life, it’s one of the basic human instincts and its primitive function is to keep us alive.

Fear of danger forces us to either ‘fight or flight’.

But the fear of change is a learned fear, we are all creatures of habit and unfortunately that can mean that we are slow to embrace change even when we can see clearly the light at the end of the tunnel is worth that first step into that dark and scary unknown.

Learn to face your fears, recognise what is it that is making you feel afraid to take that first step and take the necessary action to change and learn to face that fear.

Take advice from others and be quick to see where you can learn from the experience of those who’s footsteps you now follow. Increased knowledge will enable you to reduce the unknown factor of the decision that you are currently contemplating.

All that’s left then is to take that first step…

It’s been my experience that the fear of doing something is usually a lot worse than actually doing whatever the task may be

Good Luck to you 🙂 x

Memories

Memories are the moments in time that shape us on our journey through life and mould us into the people that we are today.

Rejoice in the memory of those people and places that touch your heart and know that you never walk alone they live on through you in every smile and every good deed.

Do not let yourself become trapped in the thoughts of bad memories and experiences, instead look to see the truth in those experiences and learn from them, I know I cannot change the past, but I can learn from it and try not repeat the same mistakes here and now in the present.

Everyday is a gift, so take the time to spend it with those that matter to u most, for everyday u are forging new memories in their hearts and minds, that will live on and carry them into the future 🙂 x