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Today this could be, the greatest day of our lives…

Or this could be the worst day, depending on your perspective…

Start your day of well today,

Focus on being all that you can be,

If I go out into the world with the mindset that everyday I am going to live up to my full potential,

Then Everyday is a Great Day

If my day starts with fear and an outlook of doom and gloom, then how can I expect my day to go any other way,

Things may or may not go the way I want them to go,

But what is important is that I be open to experience everything the day has to offer and not close my mind with my own preconceptions about life,

If I live for today, truly in every moment and every second of the day,

Then this has not been a day that has been wasted,

For what I experience today may carry me into the future,

Today this could be the greatest day of our lives

If we live everyday this way, I’m not saying we won’t be disappointed,

But we will be present to handle and face the challenges that we are presented.

No two days are ever the same,

I can never get yesterday back and I do not know with absolute certainty what tomorrow holds for me.

I wish you well on your journey today,

And I hope you make the most of today, however you choose to spend it

As I shut my front door and go out into the world, I have hope and look forward to the challenges I am to face today,

Life is truly too short to spend worrying about the past, present and future; try and focus on the here and now.

Today this could be the greatest day of our lives

Whatever life has to offer you today, I hope you have an open mind and open heart to experience it.

Everyday is a great day depending on how “I” choose to perceive the world.

🙂 Xx

Have you ever considered how much of what you display is an act and how much of it is the real you?

All of us play roles at some point in our lives, but where does the role stop and the real person inside begin.

Take meeting a perspective partner for the first time.

On that first instance, the first approach there is an element of acting involved.

 

It’s the age old dance that men and women play whatever your preference may be.

Like an interview you only get one chance to sell yourself and make a good first impression, to your perspective other.

I may be quiet, timid and insecure but on that first approach, those are the less favourable qualities of my character that I do not display.

The man you meet could maybe be seen as an exaggeration of my better qualities, but to some degree that is not the real me only the light side of the coin.

 

In my working life I play a different role.

Training and experience has enabled me to be able to handle certain situations that would cause many to fail.

This however is not so much an act but could be considered to be such if the confidence that I display in a familiar situation of which I’ve learned responses; is not the behaviour that I display in my everyday life.

Therein could be the problem that you may face and ask yourself, where does the actor or actress in me that has learned what the necessary response may be finish and where does the variety of my true nature and character begin?

 

I think to some degree I’ve always been an actor, able to assess situations and formulate the appropriate response to whatever life may throw at me.

The problem starts when you are unable to take off the multitude of masks and costumes that you may wear.

Worker, Husband, Wife, Father, Mother, Son, Daughter, CEO, Boss

All of these roles are the building blocks of your character, the person you portray, but are they really you deep down inside?

Being true to one’s self may often mean sacrificing parts of one’s self and compromising on certain beliefs…

“I was a career oriented woman or man until we had our first child”

Things that once drove you to strive to achieve are no longer the focal points of your life,

“I used to work late nights but it means more to me now to tuck my son or daughter in, than to spend that extra hour at the office”

 

As a parent you make sacrifices every day, for those you love as you put their needs ahead of your own.

This is not the actions of an actor, but the actions of the Love you poses.

We all play different roles in life,

 

Different circumstances may cause us to change our outer shell,

But for me it is most important to stay true to who we are.

 

To let someone completely in and see the true you, is the greatest expression of honesty,

My joys and successes,

My fears and my woes,

 

To be an actor bares no shame, sometimes we all need to take on certain roles,

But to deny one’s self fully, is a greater sin,

 

The true self is always changing,

I am no more the man I was yesterday,

As today had changed me into something else

But at my core,

I know who I am,

As you know who you are.

Actor/self

True/False

Only you can decide

🙂 Xx

 

Past, Present, Future

Past – where I’ve been

Present – Where I am now

Future – Where I hope to be or where I see myself going

Where do you currently reside?

It’s a simple question, but take a second to think about it before you can answer honestly.

The “Past” is the places I’ve been, the people that came before me,

It can be said that the some total of your “experience” are building blocks of the man or woman that you are today. I would not be where I am at this very moment in time had i not experienced all the good and bad things that led me to this very point in time.

The Present is what is happening right now.

Right now this very second you are reading the words off of this page.

As I write them, so do you take them in and form your own opinion and understanding of what has been wrote.

But the present is not a lasting “thing” for lack of a better choice of words, as it is truly a state of being that you perceive in the essence of the “moment” before it becomes only but a memory and a part of your past.

The Future is forever changing and is that which is yet to come.

Everyday we make decisions or choices that will make an impact on the course that we take through life

“I won’t go to that party”

Had you had gone maybe you would have met the woman or man of your dreams, but this would be an outcome unlived

“I’ll take that job instead of this one”

 The people and experiences that you would have gained from taking either path would inevitably affect who you are to become and the wisdom and skill you would gain in your present life

But you can’t know what lies ahead with every outcome as you have to make a decision… “One or the other” and be able to live with what the future is to entail based on your current decision

When I asked above “which state are you currently living in” I asked you to pause for a reason.

Ideally we would strive to be living in a constant state of being i.e. the present, so that we are able to fully comprehend and take in all that is around us and truly experience life.

But such a state is hard to sustain fully and in my experience we often find ourselves slipping into the memories of the past or lost in the contemplation of what is yet to come.

The past is a great teacher but do not let yourself get trapped there.

We all experience both good and bad events as we grow into the people that we become, some of which leave scars and memories that we either strive to fight against and rebel or hope to live up to.

“I’m not going to end up like him or her”

May be a good motivation to give you the inner energy needed to succeed and achieve your goals,

But if you are running from the memory be careful that you don’t become what you have fought so hard to avoid in your quest to change your fate. To hold onto such hate will eventually consume you if you let it, rather than striving not to be him or her learn from his or her mistakes so that you can be the best version of you in the present.

You can say that similarly looking too far into the future can cause much harm if done in a way that makes you unable to see what is happening right in front of your eyes:

“I’m gonna be a millionaire”

“I’m gonna be a great dad and have a wonderful partner and kids”

Too few realise that although these may admirable goals to set oneself, there are a number of steps that we each have to walk until that “future goal becomes a present reality”

Be careful that you get so focused on the perfect ideal that the present joy and happiness will walk in and out of your life.

The real question you should be asking yourself after you have made your future aspirations is how am i going to achieve this thing?

Followed at once by taking “Action” in the “Present”

Learn from the Past, don’t look to deny or become trapped there

Learn to be Present, you only get one life and you will never again experience the events of today, make the most of it and be there in mind and body to experience it in all its beauty

Strive towards the future, don’t just live in the fantasy ask yourself honestly how you are to achieve such goals and take the necessary action to turn a dream into a reality

But the future is forever changing, no one’s fate is written in the stars

Have faith that you are where you are meant to be right now that’s all you need concern yourself with

 

I can’t change what’s already happened only learn from it and tomorrow hasn’t happened yet,

So why spend time worrying too much about it

Go out and Live and things will work out as there meant to. 🙂

You are where you are meant to be

Right now at this very moment in time, could you consider that this is where you are meant to be?

How often do we say to ourselves:

“I wish I was where he or she was”

“I wish I had his or her life”

“if only I had made this or that decision my life would be different”

“My life shouldn’t have turned out this way”

As human beings we are granted the luxury of free will and have the ability to make choices both good and bad that will have a direct impact on the paths we go on to take on our journey through life.

Granted that the choices life presents you with may be determined by the environment in which you were born into.

But do you have the courage, determination and belief within yourself to tempt ‘would be fate’ and take the necessary action to change your stars and forge a new destiny for yourself?

A destiny different from that from which you were born into?

Or are you consoled to let the once hopeful dreams of a child fade away and die, remaining but flittering thoughts of an innocent soul who’s perception of the world was once full of hope?

Every decision we make has repercussions both good and bad,

But could you conceive that every decision that you have made up until this very moment was the right one for you?

It is my belief that life is a journey and to have become the man I am today I couldn’t have walked any other path.

I used to say to myself:

If I would have finished university, my life wouldn’t have turned out this way….

If that had been my path then I wouldnt have been able to spend time with my mum during the final year of her life, precious moments more valuable than any degree or possible ‘perfect job’ in the present could make up for.

I’m tired of earning low wages, I deserve more money….

Did I really? I’ve earned more money in the past, but my ability to take responsibility and manage my finances has only come to me recently.

Having more money when I thought I deserved it would never had lead to me being able to be grateful for what little I’ve earned and be able to reach a level of maturity to be able to handle all the financial responsibility that comes with being an adult. An inevitability to which I have avoided until now and I’m nearly twenty-six years old.

Whatever trials we face in our life both good and bad lead us to the inevitable point where in that seemingly meaningless moment, we have to make a decision and be able live with the consequences

But take comfort in the fact that no one among us is Perfect

To be able to identify honestly where you were wrong and be able to learn from those mistakes made shows strength in your character and demonstrates that you are growing as a person.

Some of life’s lessons can only be learned through experiencing them first hand.

It’s the lessons from these moments that we carry forward with us and help to forge our character.

Would you really be who you are today had you not lived through every seconds and every moment up until this very point in time?

,You are where you are meant to be

Right now, here in this very moment as you read these words from the page and take each breath in and out.

Treasure every precious moment you have in this Life,

Truly live in the present to be able to experience the beauty in the essence of life in the world all around you.

You can’t change your past but you can learn from each and every experiences and be able to make the necessary changes that will carry you forward into the future.

Whatever your age, where ever you are right now, your story is still yet to be told….

I wish you all the best on your journey

,One day

,One hour,

,One second,

,One moment at a time 🙂 x

The first step is always the hardest or so the saying goes, but what’s stopping me from taking it?

Am I as fearless as I would lead you to believe or am I really still at heart that little boy or girl, stumbling around through life as I did all those years ago, when I took my first steps in this world and learned to find my balance and then to walk

I can quite easily give you a great list of all the things I don’t like about my life and may even take pleasure in the venting of my frustrations, but why can’t I seem to take the necessary action to change those things? What’s stopping me?

Fear of the unknown

“Better the devil you know, than the devil you don’t”

I may say to you that I hate my job, but the only thing keeping me there is ME!!

My fear of change and the unknown is all that may be stopping me from going for that all important promotion or making that change in career that would see me obtain the fulfilment and personal satisfaction through knowing I’m giving my all to a career that breeds passion in my heart and not just doing another ‘job’ to pay the bills.

We all experience fear in this life, it’s one of the basic human instincts and its primitive function is to keep us alive.

Fear of danger forces us to either ‘fight or flight’.

But the fear of change is a learned fear, we are all creatures of habit and unfortunately that can mean that we are slow to embrace change even when we can see clearly the light at the end of the tunnel is worth that first step into that dark and scary unknown.

Learn to face your fears, recognise what is it that is making you feel afraid to take that first step and take the necessary action to change and learn to face that fear.

Take advice from others and be quick to see where you can learn from the experience of those who’s footsteps you now follow. Increased knowledge will enable you to reduce the unknown factor of the decision that you are currently contemplating.

All that’s left then is to take that first step…

It’s been my experience that the fear of doing something is usually a lot worse than actually doing whatever the task may be

Good Luck to you 🙂 x

Memories

Memories are the moments in time that shape us on our journey through life and mould us into the people that we are today.

Rejoice in the memory of those people and places that touch your heart and know that you never walk alone they live on through you in every smile and every good deed.

Do not let yourself become trapped in the thoughts of bad memories and experiences, instead look to see the truth in those experiences and learn from them, I know I cannot change the past, but I can learn from it and try not repeat the same mistakes here and now in the present.

Everyday is a gift, so take the time to spend it with those that matter to u most, for everyday u are forging new memories in their hearts and minds, that will live on and carry them into the future 🙂 x